The question is: would you want your future to be decided by others? Why or why not? I think it has it's ups and downs. Some advantages are: if someone else decides for you, they would probably make the right choices because they would have been studying you for a long time. Another advantage is, that, in the community, they are assigned spouses. They know that they would get along, so they put them together, instead of risking you making wrong choices, and becoming unhappy. But the big disadvantage is there would be no freedom, or indeed, real happiness, in your life because you just do what other people want, not what you want. The fun and adventure in life is taken away.
